Lunch Prep

Quick post as I did a little lunch prep today for the next couple days I have to work. Since I’m being healthier, making healthier eating choices and habits I realized I needed to start peeping my meals. Especially for days that I have to work. So, I just prepped some noodles, roasted a pack of frozen stir fry veggies and made brown rice in a crockpot to swap out my grain/pasta with the veggies. And I’m going to make a spicy peanut sauce to go over everything.

Really simple really quick. But if I hadn’t done it I would’ve ended up either going upstairs (I work in a mall) and getting Chick-fil-A or opting not to eat at all.

Update

Hey everyone as you might have seen from the lack of post I’m taking a little hiatus from my blog right now but I’ll be back mid March. I will be posting a March playlist on the 4th but that’ll be my only post for awhile as I’m having a bit of writers block and not really sure what direction I really want to take this blog – so I’m going to use this mini break to figure it all out.

In the mean time check out my recent blog posts and I’ll see everyone soon!

Also in the mean time if you can donate to my friends gofundme page I’ll post the link. She’s an African American artist and at just 27 has gotten a painting in a museum. However, the museum her painting is being shown in is in Los Angeles (and we love in Atlanta) she wants to be able to go see her painting in person and so the gofundme is for that purpose. The museum her work is in is the California African American Museum. The image on this post is the painting that got into the museum. https://www.gofundme.com/help-ariel-get-to-cali-for-her-1st-museum-exhibit?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=fb_dn_cpgnstaticxlarge_r

Crystal of the Month

I’ve gone through some deep emotional trauma the last few weeks and have been feeling out of wack mentally and emotionally. A lot of unhealed issues dealing with worthiness and men resurfacing. Because of this I’ve been sleeping with rose quartz every night trying to give myself and extra dose of self love and warm feelings. But I have also been sleeping with chrysocolla. Chrysocolla is a blue-green crystal that looks spotted like a robins egg. It has calming nurturing energy. Enhances physic ability and intuition. Alleviates feelings of anxiety (which I need). Is divine feminine energy.

Chrysocolla is blue so it is calming in nature and it gives you a sense of self assurance that I really need right now. Compassion, gentleness and authentic expression are also qualities chrysocolla will bring out of you. Chrysocolla will help you with saying or not saying something you’ll regret.

In terms of health chrysocolla helps with physical aliments and swelling. As a feminine crystal it will also help with hormonal balance. It also has the ability to heal ovarian cysts. Chrysocolla will keep your temper in check with it’s calming properties. Wear or work with one daily for even temperance. Chrysocolla as a blue crystal has a relationship with the throat chakra and will help aid in compassionate speech when worked with.

Wearing or meditating with chrysocolla will also help with the psychic ability clairaudience which is the ability to hear spirits, energy and guidance. This deals with the throat chakra. It will also help in developing or deepening clarirsentience which is the ability to feel or sense the presence of spirits, energy, emotions or guidance in the solar plexus chakra.

Throat chakra. Self-love. Chrysocolla is a lot of compassion for self wrapped up in this blue crystal. A stone of communication. Empowerment and teaching. Helps with anxiety and depression.

I mediated with chrysocolla Tuesday night as I couldn’t sleep and had really deep sleep I woke up feeling like I had been asleep for years. And all the emotional trauma I had been experiencing has been softened which was much needed. Chrysocolla was a crystal I bought a couple years ago wanting to get more in touch with my divine feminine and it has helped me in many other ways. If you’re into crystals or want to be chrysocolla is a crystal that is needed in your collection.

Dry Brushing

I’ve never had difficult skin and in the past two years the little problems I had I cleared up from being vegan, drinking enough water, and dry brushing. I get comments all the time on how smooth and soft my skin is and I know these 3 things are what help me maintain smooth skin. I know a diet change is a big thing and drinking water doesn’t solve everything so that leaves dry brushing a small self-care practice that everyone can do. I started dry brushing during my pregnancy but wasn’t very consistent with it. I dry brush every day now before I shower. I know people do it after a shower then apply oil but I find doing it before my shower more helpful for me. And I do apply oil after I shower. I usually use almond oil but any oil with skin benefits can be used.

I bought my dry brush from target I don’t remember how much it was but I know it was less than $15 cause I’m cheap. It works perfectly fine so don’t think you need an expensive dry brush to get smooth soft skin. You only need a natural bristle brush. I do recommend however that you have a separate dry brush for your face that’s just my preference my skin on my face is really sensitive and I just don’t want to mix the two. (I never use the same face cloth for my face and body too).

Dry Brushing is beneficial for a number of reasons. It exfoliates your skin while giving it a massage. You’re supposed to dry brush slowly in circular motions. And you are only supposed to do it 3 times a week according to some people but I’m not good at routines that aren’t everyday so I do it every night.

I do wash or clean my brush once a week with Dr.Bronners baby castille soap just to get rid of dead skin and whatever might be on the bristles.

  • Benefits of dry brushing:
    • It sheds dead skin cells
      Results in smoother brighter skin
      Helps with ingrown hairs
    • stimulates nervous system
    • Increases blood circulation
    • It is said but not proved to help with cellulite and aid in digestion

    I personally noticed how much smoother my skin is when I consistently dry brush. Also my skin seems brighter. And I just feel better because I’m going the extra mile taking care of my skin and my body.

    The firmness of the bristles from a natural brush don’t hurt or bother my sensitive skin but I’ve seen some people say it bothers theirs so keep this in mind if your skin is really sensitive. Make sure that you do moisturize after your shower because dry brushing can lead to dry skin.

    What do you do that’s a self-care indulgent but simple routine? Let me know and let me know if you have any questions about dry brushing or if you try it.

    Here’s a video of me demonstrating slow circular motions when dry brushing. Doing my whole body does usually take 7-10 minutes but you don’t have to go as slow.

    An Introduction to Astrology

    If you pay attention to my posts you’ll have noticed that I mention my sign or Sage’s sign sometimes even for minor things. So, I thought let’s do an intro to astrology post for those who don’t know a lot about astrology or feel like it’s not for them.

    I’m just going to do a little back history and cover the very basics of astrology. The sun sign, moon sign, and rising sign. I’ll talk about my own. What astrology books I read who I follow on social media that has the best astrology advice and even tackle mercury retrograde which goes direct today.

    Sun sign:

    the sign that the sun was in at the time of your birth is your sun sign. The sun is the most important “planet” to earth. It sustains us. It is also the most important influence in your zodiac or birth chart. And in many ways determines how others see you. It is the very surface layer of who you are in terms of signs. Your external self.

    Moon sign:

    In the most basic terms your moon sign is your emotions. It’s where the moon was in the sky at the time of your birth. The Moon is the part of you that you see. The moon is your personality. It is your subconscious. The you that reacts. Your instinct. In many ways your moon personality is what you keep hidden from others.

    Rising sign:

    Your ascendent or rising sign is a very important part of your horoscope. The rising sign is the sign that reflects your outward demeanor and to determined how the outside world looks at you. This sign represents your outer personality. Your “image”. The rising and sun sign usually blend together giving a unique outward personality which is why some people of the same sun sign can be totally different as the rising sign is crucial to the personality. Your rising sign is the sign that was rising over the eastern horizon at the time of your birth.

    That explains the gist of the signs that I find to be the most important in a birth chart but the Venus (love) and the Mercury (communication) signs are very important too in my opinion (maybe a second introduction post next month).

    I am a Gemini sun-Scorpio rising-Capricorn moon. And I’ll talk about these signs a bit because I think these 3 signs are some of the most misunderstood of the zodiac.

    As a Gemini I know the stereotypes are that we’re flighty, two faced, wishy-washy. But I think Gemini’s are the misunderstood sign because we want to be understood so much by our peers. We wrap so much of our worth into this feeling of being understood by others we forget to understand and learn ourselves. I honestly think Gemini’s are the child of the zodiac they (we) need so much reassurance, love, support and connection from those we love. Y’all know the problematic Gemini’s but some other famous gems are: Prince and Bob Dylan.

    Scorpio’s I know are seen as secretive, the whole sex thing, and mysterious these qualities aren’t necessarily bad but explain very little about the Scorpio. Who is very self-conscious and afraid of being hurt so keeps people at distance (secretive) afraid of showing their real selves. Some famous Scorpio risings are Prince (again) and Diana Ross.

    Capricorn’s like most earth signs I know are said to be practical and emotionless even boring (rolls eyes) but this is way far from the truth. As a Capricorn moon I’m insecure, I overthink everything, I analyze everything. I make everything emotional even when it’s not. Some famous Capricorn moons are: Anais Nin and Ernest Hemingway.

    That’s my little insight on those signs so if you are one of these 3 there ya go.

    On to the history of astrology for y’all who don’t believe it’s real.

    Astrology has been studied for the past 5,000 years. Greek philosophers formulated the theory of Man in Microcosm that is, the human being is a miniature version of the cosmos. According to this concept everything in nature has a parallel in human beings, and thus humankind and the universe are linked together in a system of correlations. The study of the Sun, Moon and stars began well before recorded history. Ancient astrologers charted the movement of planets and stars and made predictions about eclipses, upheavals, famine and fortune. In ancient societies religion and astrology were linked. Astrologers were usually priests. Most ancient societies studied astrology like the Egyptians, Babylonians, and the Greek and Roman empires. After the fall of Rome astrology went into decline. And didn’t recover until after A.D. 1200. Astrology became very linked with superstition during the Roman era where Christianity was becoming widespread and astrology was thought of as the work of the devil. Though astrology wasn’t practiced in Europe during this time it was still practiced and remained a serious science in other countries. During the Renaissance there was a resurgence of astrology. And throughout history it has declined and bloomed again and again as times and people have changed.

    Now astrology an old practice is becoming even more popular mainstream where they’re are astrologers working even on social media (as I’ll list below)

    Mercury retrograde. Mercury is the planet of communication, intelligence, perception and intellectual energy. Mercury rules Gemini and Virgo. When a planet is in retrograde it is the backward motion of a planet traveling through the zodiac. During mercury retrograde things dealing with communication, perception and intelligence can be thrown off. And can turn into deceit, coldness, and argumentativeness.

    Mercury was in retrograde but is now direct starting today. So, if any issues arose for you during this last retrograde of the year look for the lesson and if you can mend what can be fixed. (November 16-December 6).

    So, that’s a lot of information to process and I think that’s all I’m going to talk about in this first introduction of astrology. I was into zodiacs before astrology. And would read my horoscope everyday in middle and high school. It wasn’t until maybe 3-4 years ago I learned of birth charts and all the other signs that we each are that astrology and zodiacs and horoscopes started to make more sense. As a introverted sometimes shy Gemini just reading my sun sign doesn’t really relate to me. Plus there’s way more insight in horoscopes and astrology now than there was 10 years ago and it’s not just you’ll meet someone new today stuff.

    I probably will do a follow up post on Venus and Mercury signs and also talk about the houses and why they are important in understanding the birth chart.

    Some astrologers that I follow on Instagram are: @jaliessasipress , @thehoodwitch , and @thevoluptuouswitch.

    And on Twitter @audrykitching and @mysticxlipstick

    This is the astrology book where I get most of my information on charts and understanding the signs.

    Tofu Salad Bowl

    Doing something a little different for this post. I recorded a video because I’ve been wanting to start doing some video things. It’s not at all professional I shot it on my iPhone 8 and then edited it in iMovie I don’t have any editing software but if I like this whole video thing I’ll invest in a camera and software.

    So, this is a video and rough recipe of a salad I’ve been doing lately for lunch/dinner.

    First blot your tofu then cut it into chunks or squares.

    Season them how you want. I was doing an Asian inspired salad so I used ginger, coconut aminos, salt, pepper, red pepper flakes, and siracha. You can see in the video I don’t use measurements it was too hard with one hand. And then I baked them at 400 degrees for 35 minutes to get them crispy on the outside.

    The salad was a mix I bought from Publix with cabbage, cut brussel sprouts, and kale and I added chopped carrots.

    Finished tofu. If you’re baking tofu and not using oil like me I recommend using parchment paper and not foil it gets the tofu crispy on the outside but soft on the inside like a really good french fry.

    And added siracha, follow your heart vegan Caesar dressing and walnut “cheese”.

    This is a really filling salad and I know I won’t be hungry again until way later and will probably have a banana smoothie.

    edit- I ate this around 1pm yesterday and I ended-up eating another salad later in the evening but used lettuce (I know) and today I feel so sick. I threw the bag away already. While I was eating something told me to stop because the lettuce wasn’t crunchy at all and I had a bad feeling about buying lettuce when I bought it (should’ve listened to instinct). So, I hope y’all are all staying safe with your greens right now and not taking your body or health for granted.

    Mom Talk #4

    This mom talk might be a little sensitive to some mommas. Because I’m talking about co-parenting this month. I never thought I would identify as a single mom. Sage’s father was there my whole pregnancy and after for 9 months we did live together and try to make things work. There of course was a limbo period where we didn’t know what we were doing but I think we’re almost (knock on wood) in an okay place. I don’t have set rules or regulations for co-parenting I don’t like confrontation and have a hard time asserting myself. I’m learning to ask for what I want. Whether is a night off to hang out with my friends or just a night off for self-care. At first it was hard for me to ask for help with buying things Sage needed or ask for a break but co-parenting does get easier. I know society has conditioned women to believe their place is at home with their kids and sacrifice sacrifice sacrifice but that doesn’t have to be your reality. You can be happy with your child or children and happy alone having a night off (and this is whether you co-parent or have a husband). Never be afraid to ask for what it is you need as a mother to feel your best mentally and emotionally.

    Sage is not yet on a set schedule when it comes to co-parenting but I would like her to be (if any of you co-parenting moms or dads have tips on scheduling let me know). I have had issues with accountability sometimes Sage’s father doesn’t do as much as he should and the responsibility usually falls on me to provide financially. As well as being her primary caretaker (which is why identify as a single mom). But he is there for her he’s her dad and really her best friend they have a bond and when he is around it’s like I don’t exist – so I make things work for her.

    However, co-parenting is not about the parents and all about the child. Well, it’s a little about the parents because things need to be worked out and parents need to be on the same understanding when it comes to their child’s needs. But other than that it’s about doing what’s best for the child and not taking things personally when things come up (cause they will). Parenting isn’t a perfect system and co-parenting isn’t either. There is a lot of growth that has to happen with both parents for things to work. Separating your personal relationship from your co-parenting relationship with your child’s other parent is key to making this relationship work.

    Co-parenting should be consistent similar rules, discipline, and rewards so your child knows what to expect with both parents this also won’t lead to confusion. Never vent to your child about the parent in a co-parenting situation. Stay focused on your child and less worried about what the other parent is or isn’t doing – however if problems do arise setting a meeting time without children present to talk through issues and resolve them will be beneficial to all involved.

    Co-parenting is team work. Approach the relationship in a business like manner and keep conversations focused on your child as to not get past feelings mixed up. Always be respectful in dealing with the other parent and communicate effectively. Request for things instead of demanding and making comments about things that you want to happen but aren’t. And realize that with any relationship a co-parenting one requires work and communication to work effectively. If you and the other parent can stay focused on your child things should run smoothly. Also make big decisions together don’t make them in the spur of the moment then later talk to the other parent about it. Being mindful will go along way in keeping the relationship healthy and unstrained.

    Your child’s emotional and mental well-being is more important than any petty thing that can come up in a co-parenting relationship just remember this and keep this in mind and co-parenting might at least feel better when things do come up.

    Personally, I do my best to only focus on Sage when it comes to co-parenting as long as she is okay and happy I try not to let a lot of things bother me. If you co-parent and you feel overly stressed in an area whether it’s financially, mentally, emotionally or even in your physical body it may be time to communicate this with your co-parenting partner and come up with a plan to get things more relaxed. I know moms feel the need to do a be all things but we don’t have to anymore it’s okay to help and expect help from the person who helped bring your child into this world. Do not be afraid. And co-parenting gets easier and if it doesn’t take legal measures to get what you need for your child and for you.

    3 Ways I Manage Stress with a 2 year old

    Not going to lie my patience sometimes is at 0 with my daughter. As a single working mom I’m stressed more than I’d like to be. This of course causes me to be less patient with my high strung toddler and tense. Here’s 3 Ways I destress and find a lil selfcare for myself throughout the day.

    1. Yoga

    And I’m not talking about yoga as an exercise. I’ve learned quite a few poses over the years (when it was an exercise for me) and in the morning I sometimes put on nature or meditation music and just allow myself to sit and flow from pose to pose for however long I feel. Being aware of my breaths. And getting out of my head a little.

    2. Showers

    I’ve always had this weird gravitational pull to water (I’m not a water sign so this is why I say weird). Water calms me all the way down. And if my daughters particularly intense one day I will either make her take a midday bath or I’ll take one myself for some me time or we’ll take one together if we both need to chill out. For some extra relaxation I sometimes add epsom salt and oils to the bath too.

    3. Listening to Music

    When my daughter was a newborn I had a record player and one of the ways I’d get her out of a crying fit was to play records. I even had made a playlist called Sage’s Morning on my SoundCloud. Music chills me out cause it again gets me out of my head space. And for Sage she likes to dance so it keeps her occupied even if only for 5 minutes.

    What are your tips for keeping cool and calm through the day with your toddlers? (or kids) let me know in the comments!

    Crystal of the Month

    Orange calcite is this months crystal as I’m currently focusing on my sacral chakra and using my orange crystals to tune into this second chakra. I’ll also touch on carnelian which is my other sacral go to crystal. And mookaite jasper which is another crystal I’ve been meditating with currently. Orange calcite is this translucent colored crystal that is mostly grown and harvested in Mexico I have been sleeping with orange calcite under my pillow the past couple days. It really is gently easy flowing energy. And I’ve already started painting again I painted yesterday for a little bit and I don’t paint consistently (at all cause of stress & things) but I’ve been feelin a creative “spark” since using the orange calcite. Just wanting to not let fear eat at me and go for it. Orange crystals are perfect for confidence, joy, creativity, fertility, abundance, inventiveness, independence, self-esteem, strengthening identity, happiness, and creative / artistic ventures. Orange calcite is a powerful yet gentle stone and even my 2 year old is attracted to it and always wants to hold it. It’s warm energy.

    The sacral chakra which is associated with the color orange is one of the three “lower” chakras and is the second chakra above the root. It’s area on the body is the lower abdomen. It deals in your sense of pleasure, abundance, joy of life, well-being, sexuality (and sexual energy) and creativity.

    Orange Calcite is gentle restorative and revitalizing energy. Helps improve the flow of chi,creativity, and sensuality. Clears blocked energy in the sacral chakra, improves digestion, and strengthens the immune system. For a more relaxed state wearing orange calcite can help. Orange calcite also helps bring your emotional energy back into a state of balance. If you have trouble with mood swings or dramatic shifts in mood and temperament (my Gemini self does at times) then orange calcite can gently moderate this imbalance while you can seek out the cause of the moodiness. Meditating with orange calcite and carnelian (another sacral chakra stone I’ll talk more in depth about in its own post) can help you to feel more pleasure about life- if you are feeling unenthusiastic or blocked from experiencing pleasure in any form.

    Element: fire.

    Planet: Sun

    Helps in balancing sexual energies. As well as removing any and all creative blocks one might be feeling. Though I got this crystal just to work on my sacral chakra it is really helping me to heal and clear creative blocks and fears I’ve had this year. I’ve began writing my manuscript for my book of poetry and painting again – finding my own creative style and not looking and envying what other artists are doing.

    This is a good stone to have if you’re a beginner in crystal healing. Or if advanced. If you’re a creative. Or just as a chakra crystal stone.

    okay, so let’s touch on mookaite jasper and carnelian a bit. Carnelian is passionate, determined, fiery energy. Excellent for creatives. Helps with empowerment and boundary issues, modified destructive impulses, increases feelings of confidence and self-worth. Mookaite Jasper helps relax you and surrender to the natural flow and rhythms of the earth and of your body. Improves sleep patterns. And feelings of being grounded and connected to earth. Both of these crystals would also be excellent for the sacral chakra in opening it and balancing it and if you just want certain qualities to stand out in your personality more.

    Got this chunk from @wildandfreepeople on Instagram they also have an Etsy where they sell lots of crystals. I have a physical store I love to buy crystals from in Atlanta but I can’t always get there. So, having online alternatives is good for me.

    if anyone knows of woc online sellers of herbs and crystals please send me their info!

    October Playlist

    Hey hey!

    It’s my favorite month of the year, I love October. Halloween’s my favorite holiday. Falls my favorite season. I’m happy I’m feeling it. This playlist is probably the most “alternative” playlist I’ve made. Lots of “soft” rock. Some Jimi. Some 6lack. Some trap mixed in too. I definitely got into the Halloween spirit with Santana’s “black magic woman”. I’m so ready for Halloween. Sage wants to be Elisa *rolls eyes* but I’m excited to take her trick or treating. It’s the first year she vocally could say what she wanted to be. And I’m of course excited for Halloween parties I still dress up. There’s way more alcohol involved in my festivities though and I’m hype to say the least.

    Anyways, hope y’all enjoy this playlist I know the songs won’t be everyone’s cup of tea. But it’s a-ok. I’m going to be jamming out to these songs all month long. πŸŽƒ

    October Playlist

    p.s.

    thinking of doing something different for November and posting my fav SoundCloud mix (or mixes) for y’all to listen to instead of making a playlist myself but I’ll be back with a playlist in December β™₯️

    Artwork @serpentfire